I’ve spoken before on this blog a bit about the useful qualities being an introvert can bring to life. It allows me to enjoy my solitary work environment (with animals of course!), gives a greater ability to concentrate and makes one-on-one intimate relationships of great importance.
One potential downside is that it can get too much. It’s very easy when you enjoy the solitary experience to allow it to take over so that you become isolated. Life is busy; rushing in and out getting breakfast, lunch, drop-offs, collections as well as the endless piles of laundry and to-do lists. But this is not really the same as spending time with people and having interaction as part of your day.
I go through cycle; by the end of holidays I long for time alone. The first few days are bliss, I sit in the office with almost total silence (not counting the insane cats dismantling my pile of packing materials) and just LOVE it. Then a few days pass and I realise that my only human interaction was telling people to get up, hurry and checking that homework was done. During the week due to gym schedules I don’t see my husband before 8 or 9 and generally we’ve both lost the desire to do anything other than turn into couch potatoes at that point. At first I don’t notice that I’m becoming isolated, then I get sad and then I get very negative. But it take a few more days before I realise that I’ve got to reach out either virtually or in person and make an effort. Virtual connection is wonderful, you can pick it up and put it down as you need so that it fits in comfortably around your life. I’m astonished how wonderful, effective and supportive virtual friends are. It can make all the difference. It can change a day where you felt like the world was crashing down around you into a day that’s full of new possibilities and fun.
Here are a few self-care techniques I’m attempting to incorporate into my life
- 20-30 minutes of Yoga to centre myself before I work (I’m finding Yoga with Adriene fantastic!).
- Clear lists with small, achievable goals for the day.
- Daily walk with my dog.
- Remember to stop rushing for just a few minutes every day and reach out to people (in-person or virtually).
- Being gentle on myself if the day ran away with me and start afresh the next day.
Do you have a support network in real life or virtually that picks up up and dusts you off on rough days? What self-care works best for you? Let’s all mind and love ourselves in 2018.